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04

Apr

Relationships are like your favorite clothes. You don’t throw them away but you keep them fresh with new accessories.
Dez White
Co-Author “Mistress To Misses”
Happy Anniversary Beyonce and Jayz ! Do you see this and wonder how it last ? WORK! Nothing is perfect and neither is their union. From the outside looking in you think everything is great and you are supposed to . Why ? Because things are kept quiet. Social media lets us see the ends and out of how people feel which is not that bright. 
It is nice when you are venting but then when your neighbor brings it up they are wrong? NO ! Want a union like The Carter’s then build a tight circle and stay offline. Go to counseling, church , talk to a friend , but do not vent to public. You will thank us later ……..

Happy Anniversary Beyonce and Jayz ! Do you see this and wonder how it last ? WORK! Nothing is perfect and neither is their union. From the outside looking in you think everything is great and you are supposed to . Why ? Because things are kept quiet. Social media lets us see the ends and out of how people feel which is not that bright.
It is nice when you are venting but then when your neighbor brings it up they are wrong? NO ! Want a union like The Carter’s then build a tight circle and stay offline. Go to counseling, church , talk to a friend , but do not vent to public. You will thank us later ……..

Janet is taking her talents to ISLAM ? Yes! She is taking her marriage serious this time around with no risk. Janet is said to be retiring from the industry in order to shower her husband with love. It seems as though the word has taken to Justin Timberlake but shunned her after the Superbowl incident. Is that the  reason ? Maybe not totally. Lets be serious Damita Jo is old and that thang is not about to be able to pop back as easily anymore……………so why not? Go on Janet you have our vote. Convert to Islam and get you some Hermes scarves boo  . WERK!

Janet is taking her talents to ISLAM ? Yes! She is taking her marriage serious this time around with no risk. Janet is said to be retiring from the industry in order to shower her husband with love. It seems as though the word has taken to Justin Timberlake but shunned her after the Superbowl incident. Is that the reason ? Maybe not totally. Lets be serious Damita Jo is old and that thang is not about to be able to pop back as easily anymore……………so why not? Go on Janet you have our vote. Convert to Islam and get you some Hermes scarves boo . WERK!

08

Dec

THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY ……………..

Do you have the one that you always think about and wonder “What If” ? You think about what would have happened if everything went according to plan , but it didn’t . Have you thought that maybe it was just one thing that ruined “your” love . 
Well we are sorry to BUST your bubble but here comes reality. It is all just fantasy. If it was supposed to work it would have . 
Now all you can do is try to rekindle the ” great love” or go on to a “new love” . The choice is all up to you . What you can not do is find yourself in a idealistic world wondering what could have . 
All that will come of that is …………………NOTHING! In the words of the great Mary Mary ( Erica and Tina) “GO GET IT” . And while you are going to get it drop those dreams off along the way to reality .

THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY ……………..

Do you have the one that you always think about and wonder “What If” ? You think about what would have happened if everything went according to plan , but it didn’t . Have you thought that maybe it was just one thing that ruined “your” love .
Well we are sorry to BUST your bubble but here comes reality. It is all just fantasy. If it was supposed to work it would have .
Now all you can do is try to rekindle the ” great love” or go on to a “new love” . The choice is all up to you . What you can not do is find yourself in a idealistic world wondering what could have .
All that will come of that is …………………NOTHING! In the words of the great Mary Mary ( Erica and Tina) “GO GET IT” . And while you are going to get it drop those dreams off along the way to reality .

27

Nov

When Pressuring a Man Into Marriage Goes Wrong: Lessons from RHOA Kenya Moore

Image: Bravotv.com

In case you missed the last episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta, Kenya Moore turned up the pressure on her boyfriend Walter. She decided that he was ready to meet the family and brought him to dinner. Kenya’s aunt wasted no time, and with her niece’s intentions in mind, dived right into questions that would potentially make any man squirm on his first family outing with a girlfriend.

Questions included the likes of: “What do you think about marriage? If you got married again, what would you do differently? Walter did reply by saying his last marriage left him feeling “cautious.” [RED FLAG] Can you let the man heal? It doesn’t seem like Walter is in the mood to jump into another marriage. Unfortunately due to the delusion of illusion, Kenya confidently stated in her one-on-one interview that “they both know they’re heading towards marriage.” [side-eye]

The charade continued with Kenya heating up frozen dinner and later disguising it as a home cooked meal for Walter by adding food to empty pots and offering to pepper his plate. She would later discuss her efforts with him over what seemed to be a romantic dinner. Unfortunately over the course of the evening Walter’s face went from this…


To this…
Images: Bravotv.com

Kenya gave us a complete list of phrases that will be sure to have your man heading for the hills as far away from marriage and YOU. Always remember, desperation is your worst enemy. Here’s what NOT to say:
• “I want a baby, like, yesterday.”
• “If I could be 9 months pregnant right now, I would be. I don’t want to wait. I’m ready.”
• “I’m not trying to put any pressure on you.” [Walter’s response: Sounds like pressure to me.”]
• “Well…I’m not ovulating today.”
• “I’m trying to be subtle…I think we would have pretty kids.”
• “I know you got to go at your own pace…but I’m more than ready.”
• “So five and a half? (referring to potential marriage timeframe) Walter looks perplexed. “It’s not my shoe size…and it’s definitely not my bra size as you can see. You got it?”
• “Sooo…..?” (waiting for Walter’s response) Walter replies: “Just keep drinkin’ boo.” (Refer to Walter’s facial expression above)

15

Nov

14

Nov

Think One Mistress is Rough? Try Uncovering 20!


Image: Oprah.com

If you missed the most recent episode of Iyanla Fix My Life on the OWN Network, appropriately called “Fix My Cheating Husband,” you missed a good one! Life coach, Iyanla Vanzant helps Natashia get clarity on how she allowed her husband, the pastor of a small town Louisiana church, to cheat on her with 20 women. What’s even worse?…half attended their church. Luckily, you can catch some of the footage here.

Iyanla uncovers the reverend’s dark abusive past and playfully refers to Natashia’s willingness to dishonor herself for a “church hat and a parking space.” In that moment, Natashia’s clarity begins to reveal itself: dishonor for the sake of power, attention, prestige, and image. This is a challenge many women face. Self worth plays a pertinent role in every relationship, and if it happens to be damaged in anyway, it will inevitably show itself.

Have you ever traded in your worth for the sake of a relationship? How did you overcome it? We want to hear your story! Email us at mistresstomisses@gmail.com

If you’re a Natashia please read Chapter 6 of Mistress to Misses, “You Get What You Give.” Here are some of our key sections/quotes:

“When marrying a man of status, you have the biggest job of all.”

“Being in a relationship is like having an investment account. You never know when the market is going to go up or down.”

“To give is to receive.” (Natashia admitted to never fully giving her heart to her husband from the beginning…)

“It pays, even in divorce.”

30

Apr

Lamar Odom and Khloe Kardashian have decided to pull the plug on their spin-off show “Khloe & Lamar.”

Sources tell TMZ, the show’s second season will be its last … because Lamar wants to focus on reviving his fizzling NBA career. We’re told E! is still trying to convince the couple to reconsider, but K&L are standing firm … they just don’t want to do it anymore.

"As we previously reported, Lamar was relegated to the Dallas Mavericks’ inactive list after putting up career low numbers this season. If he’s lucky, he’ll be traded. If not, who knows …

But we’re told Lamar is determined to make a comeback — and he feels he should focus on only one project. Lamar will be living in L.A. full-time and he’s hired trainers to help him get his game back.

According to sources, Khloe and Lamar WILL make occasional appearances on the reality mother ship,”Keeping Up with the Kardashians” — but that’s it. No mas. “


That is all according to TMZ ………..but do you agree ?? Do you think Khloe is  just standing by her man ? Well of course she is ! In the book we talk about Khloe and her need to be in Lamar’s corner . Now we all know that Kardashian Klan can be dramatic but Khloe is not slacking in the wife department. In being a wife you must do what is best for your mate even if it is making your family angry . Why ? Because sometime’s families can be selfish and not care about your mate’s needs. When you get married it is like starting a new business , it must go from the ground up. Everyone on the outside can tell you what you SHOULD do but no one can tell you for sure . When you think about wives that have stuck by their man think Tina Knowles. She stood by Matthew when he quit his corporate job making six figures. During the gap between him leaving his job and Destiny Child fame they even had talk of divorce . No one said standing by your man was glamorous , but it is something you must do in order to have a great marriage!

Lamar Odom and Khloe Kardashian have decided to pull the plug on their spin-off show “Khloe & Lamar.”

Sources tell TMZ, the show’s second season will be its last … because Lamar wants to focus on reviving his fizzling NBA career. We’re told E! is still trying to convince the couple to reconsider, but K&L are standing firm … they just don’t want to do it anymore.

"As we previously reported, Lamar was relegated to the Dallas Mavericks’ inactive list after putting up career low numbers this season. If he’s lucky, he’ll be traded. If not, who knows …

But we’re told Lamar is determined to make a comeback — and he feels he should focus on only one project. Lamar will be living in L.A. full-time and he’s hired trainers to help him get his game back.

According to sources, Khloe and Lamar WILL make occasional appearances on the reality mother ship,”Keeping Up with the Kardashians” — but that’s it. No mas. “


That is all according to TMZ ………..but do you agree ?? Do you think Khloe is just standing by her man ? Well of course she is ! In the book we talk about Khloe and her need to be in Lamar’s corner . Now we all know that Kardashian Klan can be dramatic but Khloe is not slacking in the wife department. In being a wife you must do what is best for your mate even if it is making your family angry . Why ? Because sometime’s families can be selfish and not care about your mate’s needs. When you get married it is like starting a new business , it must go from the ground up. Everyone on the outside can tell you what you SHOULD do but no one can tell you for sure . When you think about wives that have stuck by their man think Tina Knowles. She stood by Matthew when he quit his corporate job making six figures. During the gap between him leaving his job and Destiny Child fame they even had talk of divorce . No one said standing by your man was glamorous , but it is something you must do in order to have a great marriage!

12

Apr

DID YOU MISS YOUR MAN ?????

If you are thinking then you may have . In the book MISTRESS TO MISSES we talk about women who often have grand expectations and miss out on a good man. When you think about Denzel and Pauletta you wonder “How did she get a man like that?”.Well he was not the Denzel that he is now when they met then. She saw his potential and was willing to date him. She was not out for a rich man but out for REAL LOVE. 
Women think they will meet a Kanye , Tom Brady , or Barack obama while out in the club . That is a sad mistake. What you should realize is that the man you are ignoring now could be the man that women are chasing later. So the man who you think is a nerd and has this ridiculous dream ………….is the one you should call and invite for coffee .

DID YOU MISS YOUR MAN ?????

If you are thinking then you may have . In the book MISTRESS TO MISSES we talk about women who often have grand expectations and miss out on a good man. When you think about Denzel and Pauletta you wonder “How did she get a man like that?”.Well he was not the Denzel that he is now when they met then. She saw his potential and was willing to date him. She was not out for a rich man but out for REAL LOVE.
Women think they will meet a Kanye , Tom Brady , or Barack obama while out in the club . That is a sad mistake. What you should realize is that the man you are ignoring now could be the man that women are chasing later. So the man who you think is a nerd and has this ridiculous dream ………….is the one you should call and invite for coffee .

26

Mar

Rihanna is our FAVORITE FTG but has she gone to far?  We think that Rihanna may still be single because she has had SO much fun no man takes her serious at this point. What can a FTG do at this point? Well it is time to clean house . When you are a FTG it is rare that you are alone. Most FTG’s hang out in packs. Just like anyone with any bad habit you have to do it around those that approve. Once a FTG has gotten a new group of friends she will start to realize that her actions are not good for HERSELF. Rihanna you are the poster girl for FTG and we want you to get that ring!

Rihanna is our FAVORITE FTG but has she gone to far? We think that Rihanna may still be single because she has had SO much fun no man takes her serious at this point. What can a FTG do at this point? Well it is time to clean house . When you are a FTG it is rare that you are alone. Most FTG’s hang out in packs. Just like anyone with any bad habit you have to do it around those that approve. Once a FTG has gotten a new group of friends she will start to realize that her actions are not good for HERSELF. Rihanna you are the poster girl for FTG and we want you to get that ring!